MTL - After Rebirth, the Buddha-like Star Is a Medical Expert-Chapter 650 you are a true practitioner

   Chapter 650 You are a true practitioner

"Sorry, I'm just an ordinary person, living an ordinary life, so I may not be able to give you very constructive advice." Ning Youguang approached the purple tulip gently and said, "I don't know. What kind of life is perfect."

"what?"

   "You don't even know what kind of life is perfect, so we can't find a reference object when we go to the third dimension."

  Li Qing and Jiang Wei have the same surprised faces.

   "That's the truth." Ning Youguang shrugged, "I really don't know the definition of a perfect life."

  Li Qing thought for a while and then said, "I always think your life is perfect."

   "It's more dreamy and romantic than the sweetest idol drama in the world." Jiang Wei also nodded, "And it can stand up to scrutiny."

   That's why she and Li Qing are curious.

Ning Youguang thought for a while and said, "My life may be okay in your opinion, of course, I am also satisfied, but I don't think this can be defined as an example of a successful life and a reference standard for other people's struggles. , because I think everyone's definition of 'perfect life' is different, there is no definition at all, just like 'happiness' is different for each individual."

   "I understand what you mean." Jiang Wei said.

  Li Qing also said, "Otherwise, tell us, what kind of state can we build a stable or happy emotional relationship or a marriage relationship?"

   "I also want to hear it." Jiang Wei said, "There are really many failed marriages and sexual relations."

   This is a common social phenomenon.

   She can choose to be single, but it does not mean that she will refuse happiness.

  If she can really get the code of happiness from the "model of success" old classmate Ning Youguang, why would she not do it?

   "Many emotion experts have interpretations of this issue." Ning Youguang smiled.

   "No, most of those brick houses are big cheats." Li Qing said, "I just believe you, I want to hear from you."

   Jiang Wei also nodded, "You are a true practitioner, reliable."

  Ning Youguang chuckled lightly, "You guys really think too highly of me."

   "You are too modest, sister." Li Qing said.

   "Really humble." Jiang Wei was really convinced by Ning Youguang's modesty and low-key.

  Ning Youguang shook his head and laughed, "It's not that I'm humble, it's that I really feel that my daily life is a very ordinary daily life."

   "Go, go, go." Jiang Wei said, "Then ask the fairy to share with us the common way of getting along with us?"

   "I don't want to talk about this kind of unpredictable love anymore." Li Qing said, "Next time, why don't you go straight to get married."

   "Don't!" Jiang Wei and Ning Youguang were taken aback, "It's not good to be in a relationship, but don't think that getting married will make it better."

   "Alas—" Li Qing said, "I know, that's what I said."

   "It scared me to death." Jiang Wei stroked his chest, "Don't just get rid of one trouble and bring in another bigger trouble."

   "No." Li Qing said, "It's just a mouthful."

   "Better." Jiang Wei raised his glass.

  Ning Youguang smiled and said, "Let me ask you a question, first."

   "You ask." Li Qing.

   "Under what circumstances do you think you would want to fall in love and get married?" Ning Youguang.

Li Qing was very touched by this question, "I like a person so much that I want to be one with him and be together forever, like being called by duty, it's not whether my brain wants to be with him or not. Together, but my heart and soul felt that this person must not be missed, and then we were together."

  Jiang Wei replied, "Probably feel that he can become better with each other."

  Ning Youguang asked again, "Will you compromise and make changes for each other in your relationship?"

  Li Qing said, "I hope the other party can tolerate me."

  Jiang Wei, "It depends on what the situation is. For the time being, I'm not willing to spend too much energy on this to correct my self."

"Rationally speaking, we should try our best to find safe people to get along with." Ning Youguang said clearly, "But maintaining a marriage or a stable emotional relationship is just like devoting yourself to a mission, it is a process of changing yourself. , intimacy is also a struggle between everyone's egos."

   "Come on, you mean that we are not in a stable emotional state." Li Qing.

   "This is not the question of who wants to take shelter from the wind and who is the port?" Jiang Wei.

"Most of the people who want to take shelter from the wind and don't want to be in Hong Kong have a lack of security." Ning Youguang said, "There are also many people who have a strong sense of security. When encountering emotional problems, they can think rationally and make correct decisions. Make choices, and intimacy is good."

   "People who are insecure will fail emotionally?" Jiang Wei doubted, "I don't think so."

"You're right, it's not that people who are insecure are frustrated when they enter intimate relationships." Ning Youguang said, "According to my observation, many people fail emotionally because they make mistakes when they make decisions, and they don't understand. , getting married or falling in love, what are the core issues that need to be faced most in entering a lasting and stable relationship?"

   "What is" Li Qing.

"It's whether they are willing to give up their control over their lives for the sake of marriage." Ning Youguang said, "The truth is, no matter how good the other person is, as long as they are bound to each other, they limit each other's personal freedom. Personal education, whether two people can do well depends on whether each other is willing to be changed. Some people may understand that the best way to change a person is to love each other, and through love, stimulate the good side of each other and make each other become Better. But if the other person wants to change you in this way, can you accept it? A good relationship between the sexes must both lose a part of themselves and give way to each other. The relationship is more important than the individual. This is the secret of emotional happiness.”

  -"In the process of getting along with each other, they are slowly changed and become a better person."

   "So we are still too selfish." Li Qing and Jiang Wei looked at each other, "So there is no way to maintain a long-term intimate relationship with a person."

"'Accept', 'change', and 'let go' are enough to solve all relationship problems." Ning Guan said, "Accept what is acceptable, if not acceptable, then change, if not, then let go, all roads lead to Rome, the road to happiness is the road that doesn't work."

   "It's very simple to hear you say." Li Qing said, "But I feel that I still encounter various problems when I practice."

   "I know the truth." Jiang Wei also said, "But in practice, you will still be defeated by all kinds of unexpected problems, so I think it's really troublesome to fall in love and get married." 1314

   (end of this chapter)