Who would study psychology unless they had some issues?!-Chapter 20 Accumulated Stress (Please Follow)

Nan Zhubin's words made Boss Huang pause, followed by a surge of shame and anger.

"I don't want to recover my feelings, then why did I spend so much money and talk to you for so long?"

However, this anger did not burst out.

Nan Zhubin's words seemed to have some magic, leaving Boss Huang in a daze.

Rather than angry, it was more like he was bewildered.

Nan Zhubin observed Boss Huang's reaction and finally showed the first genuine smile during this consultation.

But he quickly restrained it, making the smile disappear in an instant through strong expression management.

Nan Zhubin said, "Next, I will tell you about a psychological concept called 'pressure events.' The sources of 'pressure events' are numerous, such as work, life, study, and so on."

"Some 'pressure events' are highly destructive, such as the death of a loved one or the occurrence of natural disasters, causing significant upheaval in a person's life, these are called 'destructive pressure events.'"

"But what happened to you is another type, called 'cumulative pressure events.' It doesn't destroy your psyche all at once, but rather emerges piece by piece in your life and weighs down on your shoulders little by little."

"At first, you might not even feel their presence, and even if you do, you might not pay much attention."

"Until a certain moment, the last straw that breaks the camel's back appears and completely crushes you!"

"Remember, what overwhelms you isn't the final pressure event, but rather merely a trigger."

As Nan Zhubin began this speech, Boss Huang slowly started coming out of his daze.

Nan Zhubin asked, "Did you feel upset when your bar wasn't doing well?"

Boss Huang instinctively answered, "Yes, upset."

Nan Zhubin pressed further, "Did you feel upset when your 'girlfriend' was about to leave you?"

"Of course, upset."

Nan Zhubin posed the crucial question, "Between these two, which one was more upsetting?"

Boss Huang blinked.

Nan Zhubin continued, "Let me rephrase, if your bar hadn't encountered any setbacks and was thriving, would you feel as upset when your 'girlfriend' left—or indeed, would you even feel upset?"

Boss Huang said nothing.

"Furthermore," Nan Zhubin remarked, "'poor bar management' surely isn't just a few simple words. There must be many chain reactions, like conflicts with peers, instability among your staff, and other social disruptions, right?"

This struck a chord with Boss Huang.

He felt understood and nodded continuously.

Nan Zhubin guided him, "These too are your 'pressure events.'"

"So I say you're not truly seeking to recover your 'feelings' or perhaps you merely think you want to recover your 'feelings.'"

"Your focus, what you should recover, is your 'career!'"

Boss Huang was thunderstruck.

Nan Zhubin continued, "The reason you were able to establish the current 'relationship' with your 'girlfriend' is that your career was thriving back then; and the reason the 'emotional relationship' with your girlfriend could be maintained was also because your career was flourishing."

"But now, your bar is facing difficulties."

Boss Huang affirmed, "Very difficult."

"Thus, other difficulties followed closely behind."

Nan Zhubin shook his head, "Boss Huang, your subconscious actually knows the solution to breaking out now—reviving your career; however, you're unable to do that. Meanwhile, as the original life framework around you keeps collapsing, it angers you."

"You opted for 'emotional recovery,' for one thing, it's the last pressure event that thoroughly disrupted your life; for another, 'emotional recovery' is the pressure event that's easiest to tackle."

"A career crisis was already bad enough. At such times, a woman who used to obey your every word wanting to leave you adds to your anger."

"Life gives you a sense of helplessness, so you hope to boost your confidence, restore your dignity by doing something."

"That's why you chose 'emotional recovery.'"

Nan Zhubin sighed, "As for your talk of 'falling in love,' 'can't be without her,' it's really just your subconscious adding weight to the 'emotional recovery' you've crafted for yourself. Because the more important the task you complete, the more confidence you regain."

"At its core, it's really an escape from the difficulties of your current life!"

"You wish to find compensation for the confidence lost in your career elsewhere!"

"But even 'emotional recovery' seems beyond your capacity, as you're sitting in this consultation room, undergoing a psychological consultation!"

Nan Zhubin's voice was gentle, yet it resonated like a bell ringing by the ear.

Boss Huang opened his mouth.

His mind couldn't catch up, his emotions still lingered in the previous state.

He instinctively wanted to deny it, to argue about his earnestness in the relationship, but in the end, he couldn't utter a single word.

After a pause, Boss Huang finally said tiredly, "I feel chaotic inside right now..."

He fell silent.

Nan Zhubin let out a long breath, feeling his emotions clear.

After about twenty seconds, Boss Huang slowly said, "Mr. Nan, this psychological consultation turned out to be very different from what I expected."

Nan Zhubin smiled, "What did you expect psychological consultation to be?"

"I thought it would be me expressing my difficulties, then you comforting me, affirming me, and finally teaching me how to win her back..."

"That could be achieved with a barbecue, a friend, two bottles of beer."

Nan Zhubin sincerely said, "But we're doing a psychological consultation; you've invested time and consultancy fees, so I hope you can gain something, truly gain something."

The consultation styles of psychological consultants are varied.

Some consultants only listen without speaking, some say more and listen less, while others might scold their clients embarrassingly.

But regardless of the consultation style, the criterion for success is singular—helping the client gain insights.

Of course, if this consultation required Nan Zhubin to offer mere affirmation, empathy, and consolation, he wouldn't be able to do it.

At least now, clarity of thought~

This consultation was only suitable for a 'scolding' style.

...

Boss Huang laughed bitterly, "I want to refute you a bit, but right now... I'm very confused."

Nan Zhubin smiled, "That's okay, our consultation time is also up."

The consultant glanced at the clock on the wall, which had unknowingly ticked almost fifty minutes.

A standard psychological consultation is forty minutes but can be adjusted as needed, ultimately ranging from forty minutes to an hour.

Nan Zhubin continued smiling, "Organizing your thoughts takes time, you can take your time to think it over."

"And if you need to schedule the next consultation, you can book it with my assistant; if you'd like to pursue long-term consultation, they can also introduce our fee structure."

Nan Zhubin stood up.

Opened the door.

Shen Bing was holding a glass of water and checking the time. This time, Nan Zhubin had instructed specially to knock around an hour rather than precisely at forty minutes.

Getting interrupted at the last moment wouldn't be ideal.

"Mr. Nan?" Shen Bing looked up with anticipation.

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Nan Zhubin nodded, gesturing—proceed.